Chapter 21 Many Life Changes
As
August approached, we prepared for the trip to Burley for the reunion
and on to a much needed vacation. Jack bought my birthday gift and
packed it to give to me on my birthday, which was 8 days away. It
was a very fragile Irish Beleek Plate. I don't remember where we were
on the 19th, maybe in Wyoming. The Jackson family
sponsored the reunion held at Minidoka Dam. We had great food and a
good time with the 83 family members that showed up.
We
went on to Salt Lake, up across Wyoming and through Yellowstone Park.
We stopped at Buffalo Bill's Museum in Cody, and on through South
Dakota going through the Bad Lands. We stopped at Mount Rushmore and
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Jack and I (wearing sunglasses) are seated behind the driver. |
visited with those great presidents. We Traveled along the border of
Iowa and saw hundreds of miles of wheat and tall corn fields. We
stopped in Mitchell, South Dakota and saw the Corn Palace with the
buildings outer walls decorated in corn.
We
went on over to Minnesota. We visited with Jack's only aunt, Rhoda,
and cousin Rhoda in St Paul. She was 87 years old at that time. She
took us through the capital building and other interesting places in
both St. Paul and Minneapolis. It was all Jack and I could do to keep
up with that young lady. From there we went across Lake Michigan and
took a boat ride out to Mackinac Island where no cars are allowed. It
was a wonderful place. We took a wagon ride around the island and
had to get back to the boat before it left without us.
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We
went up into Clinton and Wingham, Ontario, Canada and down to Niagara
Falls where we took a little more time, as that was our main
destination. We even took time to ride over the falls in a barrel,
here is a photo to prove it! The falls were one more of God's great
gifts for our eyes. All I can say is, “Awesome!”
We
went back through Buffalo, New York but didn't even get close to New
York City. Then down to Cleveland, Ohio. We stopped in Kirkland
where we toured the Kirkland Temple, which no longer belongs to the
church. It was really wonderful to see part of our church history,
but as for me, I did not feel any spiritual feelings. Then we went
over to Nauvoo, Illinois, another highlight of the trip. There I knew
I was walking on sacred ground. There was not a lot that remained of
the old town, like it is today. We walked the streets that Joseph
walked. We walked down Parley Street where the saints along with so
many of my own ancestors, walked as they exited their beautiful city
as they watched it burn!
Another
very spiritual place were we stopped was at Adam-ondi-Aham. We were
there at sunrise and the only ones there to enjoy the calmness,
looking out over the valley and feeling the spirit.
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Cindee and Steve |
Back
on the road towards home, we passed through Iowa City, Omaha,
Cheyenne, Salt lake City, Reno and home to Sunnyvale. WOW! What a
whirlwind trip. 7,800 miles in just three weeks in our little 1982
GMC S-15 pickup truck. We did not go into any of the big cities other
than Minneapolis. We spent our time only in the special “to see”
places. It was good to be home even if it meant back to the grind.
Later
that year in the fall of 1983, Gordon got job with Diet Center in a
Rexburg, Idaho and they moved up there. Also that year Tim changed
careers and went into law enforcement. Cindee married Steve Weirich
on November 6, 1983. Jack and I attended their wedding in the First
Christian Church in Burley.
The
Holidays were upon us for another year, Thanksgiving and our fifth
wedding anniversary. We celebrated our anniversary with our dancing
friends. Christmastime had the usual Syntex, friends, and church
parties. We were blessed in so many ways that year, we had our good
health, good jobs, friends and family. We were living in Sunny
Sunnyvale California. What more could we want out of one year?
Foot surgery | |
Both
feet had been bothering me for a long time. Cortisone shots only
worked for a short time. When I walked, it felt like a needle
sticking in the ball of my feet. When it began interfering with my
dancing it was time for surgery. On April 6, 1984 my doctor put me in
a small hospital that only did feet. Tiny tumors had grown on the
nerves between the toes and built up and became very painful. It was
an overnight stay and I was ordered to stay off my feet for two
months. Most people have one foot done at a time giving healing time.
I wanted it over with! I was given three months sick leave from work
to recuperate.
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Yoshiko's apartment |
On
a very hot windy Memorial Day in 1984 Jack was asleep as he had a
long graveyard shift the night before. I hobbled out on our patio and
I noticed black smoke coming from the duplex behind us. I woke Jack
up and then hobbled back to Yoshiko's apartment to alert her, I knew
she was home, but she too was napping. I pounded and pounded
screaming for her to get out.
The
fire department had just arrived and firemen were able to get Yoshiko
and her dog out, plus some of her choice Japanese dolls. Her place
and the adjoining duplex went up in flames. There was not very much
saved from either place. The firefighters fought to save our place as
the winds were strong and the temperature was above 90 degrees. When
the firemen arrived they envisioned the whole block going up in
flames.
Recovering from foot surgery | |
Our
fence and the laundry building did get charred but were put right
out. Poor Yoshiko had to go stay with a Japanese friend and we took
in her dog until she was able to place him in a kennel. All this time
the firemen would not let me go back in our place. There I stood out
there leaning against whatever I could, both of my feet in bandages
and wooden medical shoes hurting like h....l !
It
was two or three months before the burnt-out duplex behind was
rebuilt. And of course it took time to rebuild. The contractor had a
lot of different crews working on the rebuilding. It was nice to come
home from work each night and see the progress.
Yoshiko
never did move back into the newly built apartment. She got her dog
back, but he died shortly after. The family that lived in the other
duplex did not move back, much to our delight. Sorry to say but they
were nothing but trouble makers and the kid was a thief. We were
glad to see them gone. They stole our lounge chairs and were sitting
in them in the carport. When they left them, we took them back.
They had the nerve to call the police and reported them as stolen.
In
June I flew to Burley to be with my family as I concluded my
recuperation. Bonnie and the kids were in Rupert visiting her mother.
On the 13th I went back to Rexburg with them. It was the
first time I had been to their home there. They took me swimming at a
place called Heise Hot Springs, and a production of Cinderella at
Ricks College. We had a barbecue for Gordon's birthday.
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Connie, Sam, and Kellie Jo |
My
sick leave was over and I had to go back to work. It was just enough
time to convince me that staying home can be very gratifying.
In
August we went back to Burley for the Frost Family Reunion on the
10th and 11th. It
was a camp out held at Minidoka Damn Recreation Area with the Turner
family was in charge. There were always so many fun things to do,
with a pancake breakfast to start Saturday off. That evening we all
went into Burley to the Racquetball Club. What fun that was for all
the swimmers and racquetball players. I had to be a bystander with my
sore feet. After the reunion we went to Salt Lake. We didn't see
enough of our Utah families at the reunion. Thelma and I did a lot of
shopping. We always have a wonderful time when spent with family
before having to go back to Sunnyvale.
Melody and Emil at the Boise Temple | |
With
all of this going on in our lives, the kids continued to have changes
going on in theirs as well. Melody and Emil moved from Tuscon to
Gooding, Idaho. Emil had decided that they needed to start going to
church. They made themselves ready and on October 13, 1984 we
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Kyle Gouchnor |
witnessed their sealing in the Boise Temple. It was a very special
day for them as well as the rest of the family. We were so happy that
they finally got their lives in order. Besides us, also attending
were Gordon and Bonnie, my mother, some of my sisters, Melody's half
sister Lorie and her husband, plus their Bishop and friends from
their ward. After the ceremony we gathered at North's Restaurant for
a wedding dinner. Jack was able to get a very nice wedding cake for
them. That topped a beautiful day.
In
the meantime, Connie and Sam moved to Grandview, Idaho about twenty
five miles southwest of Mountain Home. Sam was working on a dairy
there. Then here came Kyle Austin Gochnour who was born on Tuesday
November, 6, 1984. Kellie had a little brother. What a sweet little
spirit. He too was born at the Cassia Memorial Hospital, in Burley.
Jack
was working graveyard shift and got home about 9:30 a.m. one morning
in November of 1984. He fixed himself some breakfast and left the
apartment to do some shopping and returned home around 1:00 pm. As
soon as he walked into the house he saw that things were amiss. It
took only seconds for him to realize the horror! We had been
burglarized! He called me at work and I was allowed to go home. What
I saw was devastating. They didn't only take everything they wanted,
but they trashed the place. The police were called, and it didn't
take long to discover who the thieves were. They left white
footprints over the fence, across the patio, forcing the sliding
glass door open and entering. A chair was placed by the fence for a
look out position. It was determined that there were two of them, and
they had been putting up sheet rock in the burnt out apartments.
(White foot prints.) They had been watching our activity, and when
they saw Jack leave, they made their move. The contractor was no
help. He denied knowing who all the guys were as they were hired by
other contractors.
They
took all of my jewelry, the VCR, all our electronics, cameras, and
camera equipment. They did miss our best camera, and dropped Jack's
gold chain on the floor. The sad thing is they took keepsakes that
could not be replaced. They were professional burglars who knew what
was worth taking and what was not. They took my gold jewelery and
left the costume. They were never apprehended. Thank the Lord we did
have insurance coverage on everything but the jewelry.
We
felt very bad over the loss but we didn't let it destroy our lives.
It left a mark on me that lasts to this day. I felt so violated.
Eventually most everything was replaced by the insurance. Most of it
newer than what we had. My diamond necklace was the only piece of
jewelery replaced. Jewelery is a costly item to insure.
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Me and my kids - November 1983. Front: Tim, me, and Gordon. Standing: Melody, Cindee, and Connie |
We
went to the Syntex Christmas dinner and party for the last time, also
our ward Christmas dinner and party.
I
had been with Syntex twelve and half years so it was time for me to
retire. I was goofing up a lot the last year. I guess I was day
dreaming and not paying attention to my machine, causing problems
for the mechanics. I am sure they were relieved when I left, but no
more than I was. The girls at Syntex gave me a little farewell party
during our lunch break and had a very nice gift for me. My last day
of work there was Friday December 28, 1984. A lot of good years
passed while I was employed there. A lot of good friends and good
memories. When I left Syntex I was earning $8.39 an hour, $335.83 a
week and $1,409.52 a month. After retiring I got $183.81 a month.
What a let down. Oh well, it was my allowance and pays for my little
needs. Jack gave me a beautiful opel and diamond ring for all those
years of labor.
And
thus ended 1984 – Another year gone forever. 1985 was a year for
visitors, tragedy, a move and a fabulous vacation.
I
was retired! I enjoyed ever minute of it. No more punching time
clocks, apologizing to the mechanics, or begging for time off to go
to Idaho. I was free!
After
I retired Carolyn and Glen talked me into working in their pharmacy
just to help out. Ya right! Hey, guys, I am retired! I do not want
to work any more. I did for a short time at their persuasion, but it
turned out that I was working full time.
In
February of 1985 we took a trip over to Santa Rosa to the main State
Farm Insurance Office to take care of the insurance from the
burglary, so we planned a couple of days of pleasure. All work and no
play is just not good for the soul. It was a beautiful drive over
there.
After
we got our business taken care of, we drove over to Calistoga, an old
mining town but not a ghost town. It is full of very interesting old
historical buildings etc. We did all kinds of fun things including I
took a wonderful mud bath in a real old fashioned tub. Boy was I
dirty! Then came the massage that was close to heaven. I realized I
don't baby myself enough. You just can't go through life without a
mud bath and a massage. I guess I had better go find a mud hole, only
that was clean mud. I think we stayed over night in Calistoga. We
also drove over to Sutters Mill, the site of the first gold strike
in California. We had a good meal and headed for home.
When
we arrived home there were notes attached to our front door from
Helen Starley, telling us of an emergency, to call Irma in Burley
immediately. There were two such notes. Irma had called Helen being
the only one she knew that might know our whereabouts. Mr. Starley
had been the president of the Idaho Bank and Trust in Burley and
were living in our ward.
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We
called Irma as soon as we got in the house to find out that Sam had
been killed when the trench caved in as he was preparing to move their
mobile home onto their property. He died February 20th. He
was only twenty four years old, leaving Connie a young widow and
three year old Kellie Jo and three month old Kyle fatherless. What
sad, sad news.
We
left for Burley as soon as we could make arrangements. His funeral
was held the 25th at the Burley First Christian Church.
Connie was beyond grief, the first thing she said to me was “Mom, I
am too young to be a widow”, and rightfully she was. I stayed
there in Burley to give Connie all the support and to help her with
the children I don't recall just how long I stayed maybe a month.
When I did leave I brought the little family back to California with
me. I'd had enough of the cold Burley weather. We tried to show
them a good time to ease the hurt. They stayed with us until Connie
felt that she could get along okay on her own, so we took them home.
Oh, how I missed them after being with them for so long.
Our
cute Chrysler Cordoba was hit by a drunk driver while parked at the
Moose Lodge in San Jose while we were dancing the night away. Later
we traded it in and got a pretty blue Chrysler Fifth Avenue
in May.
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Riding the Merry-go-round with Gordy and Olivia |
During
the first two weeks in June Gordon, Bonnie, Gordy, and Olivia came. It
was the first
time the kids got to come to Grandma's house. Jack was working the
grave yard shift so I got to take them to all to the fun places. I
turned the driving over to Gordon. We went to Yosemite Natonal Park for
a day, Golden Gate Park, Marine World, Great America, the beaches,
Monterrey, Caramel by the Sea, and a ride to Daily City on Bart(Bay
Area Rapid Transit). A Bart ride was a must for all of our guests).
Gerald
and Verlee and all 12 of their family came for two days on the tenth
of June in two cars. The Buttars were still there, so that made eighteen
of us. Our living room floor was filled with bodies, what a sight and
sound. They followed us on some of the tours. Jack cooked a spaghetti dinner for
everyone the last night that the Frosts were there. Jack finally got
off that crazy shift on Friday the day that Gordon and Bonnie left. I
hope everyone had a good time because I sure did.
We
took off on a two day trip to the Sequoia National Park and some old
mining towns in The Mother Lode. If I had still been working we would
not have been able to do all those enjoyable fun trips.
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